Ep. 121: Kegan's Theory of Adult Development, feat. David Zeitler
From BJJ Mental Models
This week, Steve is joined by psychotherapist and executive coach David Zeitler. David explains his process for coaching as he learned under Robert Kegan. We discuss Robert Kegan's framework for adult development, the self-authoring mindset, world-class performance, what makes someone coachable, what makes a good coach, resistance to help, the difference between coaches/mentors/advisors, and finding a coach.
David Zeitler's website:
Zeitler Executive Dynamix
https://mindfulness.coach/
David's book recommendation:
In Over Our Heads, by Robert Kegan
https://www.amazon.com/Over-Our-Heads-Mental-Demands/dp/0674445880
David's recommendation for finding coaches like him:
Minds at Work: Change Leadership Coaching for Immunity to Change
https://mindsatwork.com/
Mental models discussed in this episode:
- Systematic Abandonment https://bjjmentalmodels.com/systematic-abandonment/- Feedback Loop https://bjjmentalmodels.com/feedback-loop/- Investing in Loss https://bjjmentalmodels.com/investing-in-loss/- Flow https://bjjmentalmodels.com/flow/- Incremental Learning https://bjjmentalmodels.com/incremental-learning/- Shuhari https://bjjmentalmodels.com/shuhari/- First Principles https://bjjmentalmodels.com/first-principles/- The Golden Rule https://bjjmentalmodels.com/golden-rule/- Respect People, Not Positions https://bjjmentalmodels.com/respect-people-not-positions/- The 80/20 Rule https://bjjmentalmodels.com/80-20-rule/
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