A Birthday Message I Wish Someone Sent Me At 25 - Part 2 (Episode 408)

Speaker 1: All right, guys. So, welcome to part two of this birthday message. I wish someone would have sent me when I was in my 20s. Um, if you want to check out our sponsors and support the podcast, give them a look. Check out our buddies over at Epic Roll. Epic Roll BJJ.com is the website. They make a ton of terrific gear, everything from gees and rash guards and shorts, t-shirts, all kinds of different merch. I I really like their Nogi gear. To me, it's the most comfortable and best fitting Nogi gear that I've confined for my body type. You know, I'm a big, I'm not like a, I'm not a huge guy. I'm a thicker guy and it fits me just right and the material feels good. Like I I get sometimes other stuff and I don't like the way that it fits. I don't like the way the shorts fit. Sometimes the material is kind of funky and so they make a really good product. Um, it's why I get my rash guards made through them. I'm getting my gees made through them right now at my gym. 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Like I got a lot of people saying this is too much information. Speaker 2: Look, fair enough. I was like, it's something that you go through uh as a parent, um, the decision some of us have to make for our boys and one we struggle with. Well, not struggle with, so. Speaker 1: Yeah. So anyway, but that said, if you guys if you guys enjoyed this like the the this series that we've been doing with the uh, uh different ideas, then you'll enjoy my emails. Uh, you can check them out at jujitsu.net/join j o i n and when you join up, I'll give you a ebook and video guide that goes into some different ways to get more focused with your training. One of the things that I find from a lot of people is they don't really have a clear focus with their training. They're just kind of bouncing around. And if you can get focused with your training, you can make a lot more with a lot less training. Um, this is one of the things I talk to people like you don't have to train six days a week to get good at Jujitsu. You can train less, you just have to be very intentional about how you do it. Um, and that book will give you some ideas on how to do that. So check it out at jujitsu.net/join and guys, with that said, let's get into this podcast. In the last episode, we left off right where I was talking about that me and my wife, we have specific roles, right? Um, and again, just in case you didn't listen to this, that episode, that doesn't mean my wife's in the the kitchen making sandwiches. Like, Speaker 2: Sandwiches. Speaker 1: We make our own. I'm actually the one making the sandwiches. Uh, I mean, you know, she she could she cooks and stuff and and everything else, but like when it comes to actually cooking meals and things like that, that typically I'm the one making the the nicer meals, um, whenever I'm around home. But anyway, here's the next one. And these next handful are really more about like, like monetary stuff. And again, it it kind of goes back to, um, my experiences with the people that I met early on because, you know, like the young people now, I feel for them a little bit because everybody's on Instagram flexing with all their stuff, right? And so, and it's always been this way to to a degree, but it's more so than ever now, where, you know, people get on Instagram and they look at this these people that are saying that this is the outward expression of what it means to be wealthy or have money. And so when you're looking at it, this is what you should be working towards, right? Like you're driving a Lambo or, um, you know, BMW or something like that, which is nothing wrong with that stuff if you got it, if you want it, whatever, but like that doesn't necessarily have to be the way. The people that I met early on, like for instance, there's my mentor Al, of course, where, you know, guy drove a van, lived a very like very modest lifestyle for the actual wealth that he possessed. But because of that, he got to live his life on his own terms versus like being burdened with stuff. I think it was a throw that talked about that. You know, where he was talking about, you know, your farm, like talking about the guys who grew these big, big farms and the farms got so big that they no longer own the farm that the farm owned them. Speaker 2: Oh, yeah. Yeah. Speaker 1: You know, because it's like then they're having to just just work to keep this thing going. And then there was, um, there was also another business owner thinking about it. So there was I worked for a a a restaurant and a catering company early on and uh, it was called Masterson's and I met the Masterson's family and, um, again, these are wealthy people. They own multiple restaurants. They bought a a giant yacht that they used both for family functions, but also would do these like special catering parties. But, you know, on a on a whim, they would fill this thing up and they would go take their family on the yacht and go. And I mean, this thing's huge, right? So wealthy people. They didn't live some sort of ball and extravagant lifestyle. They had nice stuff, you know, but they were intelligent. So the all the actual people that I met that were like wealthy, that were business owners, that were whatever, they were all these very modest people. And whereas now, you know, every person that's trying to run a business or whatever, the the thing that they always do, the the sales tactic or the video that you see is them stepping out of some really expensive car, you know, to like be like, you know, yeah, guys, like buy my course and this could be you too, you know. Um, and I get it. It's it's a tactic to be like, it's trying to shock and all you. Oh, do you want what I have, you know? Um, you know, so to to whatever, you know, so anyway, that said, that's kind of where some of this stuff goes to is about like, you know, because this has been my experience. And you may disagree with this, you may not like this, whatever, but this is just sharing this with you. This is what I would have told myself or given myself some advice. So, going to it, the next one, uh in the list here is that me and my wife lived in a nice small apartment for a few years. And so what had happened was is when my wife and I first got together, we were renting a house, um, from someone and uh, you know, we were then starting to look at buying something. So, okay. And when we were thinking about buying, I was a little apprehensive because I didn't want to get rushed into that process. I had done that when I was in my 20s, got rushed into buying a home. And so I was like really apprehensive because I was like, if we're going to buy a home, that's a big deal. You know, like that's a mortgage. And if you think about mortgage, it means like death note. You know. Speaker 2: Is that what it means? Speaker 1: Yeah. Like look it up. Um, it means something like that. Like it means like like death note. Speaker 2: I'll look it up while you're going. Speaker 1: Yeah, make sure I'm correct on that. Um, but it's a mortgage. It's a big deal. It's like that's like potentially 15 to 30 years, right? Depending on how you want to do it. Now they've got people that are stretching those suckers out even longer, right? Which is nuts. Like, Speaker 2: It's nuts. Speaker 1: I mean, dude, it's like you're just basically you're just trying to make the payment. Anyway, I wanted to be a little slower on that. You know, also me and my wife were still we've only at this point when this happened, right? been together for a couple years. I'm like, you know, I don't know. Um, not yet. And so I was also trying to build the businesses at the time, like the online stuff. And again, you guys may not know this, but some of the software and things like that, like it costs money and then I was trying to use some of this money to help pay for assistance, employees to assist me with things like with editing so I could speed up my process with everything. So there was money that I wanted to have freely to be able to spend on the business and I didn't want to be stressed about money. I didn't want to be up to the, you know, like strapped to the gills. I wanted to be able to be relaxed about it because whenever I get myself strapped, um, I get a little stressed out. Speaker 2: Is it All right. So I looked up mortgage and then it gave you the traditional kind of a loan note. But then it said I looked up early mortgage. Speaker 1: Right, right. Speaker 2: Definition. It says historical etymology, the death pledge. Historically, the term mortgage comes from the old French mort gage, literally meaning death pledge. The death of the deal. In medieval English law, the agreement was called a dead pledge because the contract, uh, it says died or became void under two conditions, either the debt was fully repaid or the borrower failed to pay and lost the property forever. Um, so yeah, that you are you are correct, sir. Speaker 1: Yeah. So I just think that's like I think it's interesting to look at the etymology of words because I think sometimes there's meaning to to them and people don't really think about those meanings, you know, so I think that's a something to think about. So anyway, Speaker 2: Yeah. The the newer, the earlier, like the the later definition is kind of what we agree upon. Speaker 1: It's what we agree upon. We like, hey, it's like me borrowing money to pay off a certain Speaker 2: Yeah, thing. Speaker 1: But again, it's like one of those things where you think this is like like for most people, this is going to be the largest largest financial decision you ever make. The largest purchase you ever make in your life. Or, you know, if you get a bigger home, one of them. And uh, you know, you should maybe think about it a little bit more wisely than just buying a pack of gum. You know what I mean? Like I mean like, you know, I mean think about 2021, 20, like when the mortgage rates were so low and people people were just rushing into homes. Not not thinking about like there was no thought about the purchase price and what happens if rates go back up and I mean nothing. Just like Speaker 2: Well, whatever. I'll just buy. The other the other piece of that, I'll say is people thought it's just no risk. But what happens is you go from this low, low rate to like something way more, which is like over 6% now. Especially with the war going on, it's jumped stuff up and now people feel stuck. Like they can't Speaker 1: Well, yeah, because you can't get out of home. Speaker 2: They can't get out. It's like they can't afford something much better than they've already got and they might be stuck in this thing. And so it it's just a crazy situation. Speaker 1: Well, the purchase price is important, right? Because okay, now, like if you were going to sell that home, let's say you bought the home for 300,000 and it was really a $270,000 home, but you paid 30,000 over. Well, when you have to sell that home, you can't sell it. You have to sell it for that like what what's owed on it, right? Or more. And like you're saying, then you're like, okay, well, you get out of that, but you didn't really make much money on that home. So then you got to go out and buy a home and you're like you said, you're stuck. Versus had you bought that home at a reasonable price, you'd be okay. You know, so anyway, going back to it, like I I was like, we need to wait on this on this home thing and I want to work on the business. And so we spent about two and a half years in a small apartment. It was a one bedroom apartment. I actually got it from a friend of mine who was another Jujitsu practitioner who he like Jess put up a thing was like, hey, on Facebook, she's like, does anybody know any good apartments, whatever? Because, you know, whatever. And we look we went and looked at it. I remember when we looked at it, it's a one bedroom apartment. Now, for me, I'm a guy and I think there's like, have you seen that meme where they like it's like if if women didn't exist and it's just a picture of a Speaker 2: Like what the room would look like. Speaker 1: Yeah, what the room would look like. And it's like a chair with a bed on the floor. I mean, that's that's me. You know, that that that's me. I don't need a lot, right? Like and I think a lot of guys resonate with that. You know, but my wife, you know, she's now got this guy and whatever and then she's looking at we're moving from a small home, you know, to now a small apartment. And she's it was painful for her at first. She's Speaker 2: Downgrade. Speaker 1: Yeah, it was right. She's because she's downgrading, right? Where in my head, I'm thinking, no, no, no, we're making a tactical move so that we can free up funds. I'm going to grow this business on this this stuff and then we'll find out what we actually want house-wise. You know, and we'll take our time and figure it out. So we're not in a rush. We can like really think about this. And uh, because again, I rushed into a home buying decision. And you know, the the the society really they they they eff you up on this because they make you feel like, oh, well, if you're renting, you're just wasting your money. No, like you're you're like the cost of owning a home, buying a home, there's a lot of costs associated with that that that you don't get back if you sell the home, right? Um, Speaker 2: Yeah, there's there's there's money, you know, like you you got to think about the maintenance. Speaker 1: The maintenance. Well, in in the beginning, you're if you're getting a mortgage, you're paying interest, you're not paying the principal down as much, right? So like again, you know, it's not like if you as soon as you buy this home that you're just somehow getting this money back, right? It's it's not it's not the best savings account. Um, but going back to it, so like, you know, she's struggling with that that that indoctrination from society that oh, we're downgrading, we're going backwards and, you know, my life's not going on this upward trajectory. I'm like, no, no, no. I was like, we're we're doing this for a very particular reason. Just trust me. And she did. To to her credit, she's like, all right, I trust you. So we moved into the small apartment. We lived there for about two and a half years. And while we're there, I'm growing the business like and I have the freedom with the money to just try stuff out with no stress whatsoever. And um, we pay off all the debt. So we got all like I remember like the the like probably one of my coolest money moments is like, I remember she had a little bit of debt. And to her sweetheart, just a sweet woman. She had taken on that debt because she was trying to support her family who, you know, we all have family members sometimes that, you know, sort of take advantage of certain people or whatever. And she like, you know, she was trying to help some people out and she put herself into debt to try to do that, right? And she, you know, she was really adamant. She had been paying it down bit by bit, but she still had some some debt. And uh, I remember like we were sitting there talking about it and I was like, just like, let's just pay that off. Here's a check. Speaker 2: Were you guys married yet? Speaker 1: No. Speaker 2: That's a that's that's huge. Speaker 1: But I was already committed. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: You know, I was like, dude, like in my in my head, like Speaker 2: But that's the thing, like that that's just uh, I I know marriage is can be kind of like this like really doesn't change a whole lot. It just basically the thing it changes is like the way to get out of it, it's a lot more challenging and more difficult. Speaker 1: You you get the government involved. Speaker 2: Yeah, or intertwined. Um, but like that's a huge thing, right? Like it really is. That's a that's a huge uh, sentiment, something important. Speaker 1: So bought that, then we bought her we bought her we found a a friend of hers was selling a uh, like a a Honda Hybrid for like a reasonable price. And so like I we bought that. So I paid it for debt. And I remember like but when she when we bought paid off that debt, I remember like I just saw her shoulders slump and she started crying. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: I was like, yeah. Speaker 2: It's beautiful. Speaker 1: That was like, it was so cool. So, you know, again, so we got all all the debt paid off. And then while we were doing that, we were finding the house that we wanted. And we again, we going back to our idea of like having a a design of our lifestyle. We sort of like wrote out like what we're looking for. We would go to these open houses. She got me sold on land because I wasn't sold on land at first. And then we went to a house with some acreage and I was like, this is pretty cool. Speaker 2: It's nice. Speaker 1: You know, and then I was like, all right, I could do this. And then so then we start looking for places with land and then, you know, one day, a couple years later, you know, like we're in a really good position to do it. We'd say we'd live very frugally, very low, well below our means. So we had a lot of wiggle room to do stuff with money. And you know, meanwhile, we're still taking trips and doing stuff, but we're just everything else is very like, you know, tight. And uh, we go buy the house that we want, you know, and like that that we really enjoy and everything else. And so that was like again, it's um, it's kind of painful to sort of live well below your means. Uh, but that extra money being stashed away, it gives you creative freedom so that you can just play and do things. You can try things out and you have a safety net. And um, you know, if you want to go do other fun things, you can do them and then on top of that, it's like when you're ready to when you have like when when the house came available that we've been looking for. It literally hit so many of the boxes. So when that when when that came up, we were like, we let's grab it. We were ready to take advantage of the opportunity rather than being in a situation where, you know, oh, we don't have any money saved up for it and it would really strap us to the gills to try to do it or we can't buy it at all, right? So we were we put ourselves in a really good spot by taking that time to one, get some some resources together, getting ourselves into a better financial situation and then making sure that like there it is. That's what we're after. Speaker 2: Yeah. I I think the one thing you mentioned when you guys were kind of in that small and cheap apartment, which was pretty cool, like the location. It was uh Speaker 1: It was nice. Speaker 2: It was so close to everything and Speaker 1: That's literally dead center of the city. Speaker 2: Yeah. So like one of the things, man, you're a creative person. Like a lot of your work is like creative work. Um, and I think that you it's hard to do a lot of creative work when you're stressed about other stuff, right? You're stressed about I got to get the bills paid. It's really hard to kind of sit back and kind of, all right, I need to be with my thoughts. I need to really try to work this thing out, create something special. So I think it's it puts you in a in a better situation when you don't have to stress about some of the where's where's the money going to come from? How am I going to pay the bills? kind of thing. So I think it just I don't know, it frees you up a little bit. It makes you it makes you feel more free and I think you don't feel like you're in like just working to pay for shit. You know, and I think that's that allows you to essentially create better things and and you know, be more successful. Speaker 1: I think it's like that with just about anything when you're not needy, you're able to be better, right? So for instance, like let's say if you go on a date with someone. If you're in a pretty good place with your confidence, where you don't feel like you need that person and you don't need their validation in any sort, like you can be very charismatic and be yourself. But if you're worried about what they think about you or whatever, then you start to be sort of stiff and not yourself and therefore you're not as charismatic. Um, if you've ever like I remember, you know, when the gym was a little tighter and we would sell memberships and the gym was like basically you're looking up each month thinking, man, are we going to Speaker 2: What year was that? Speaker 1: 2009, 2010. So, Speaker 2: Not early on. Speaker 1: Yeah, so early on. So those were there were months where like we were skirting by, barely getting by or whatever and you're like, you know, you know this. And so you're talking to someone and you're like, man, this you're thinking this would this membership could be really helpful, you know, like will this person do it? Like it they it's just it comes off you versus like now, it's like, you know, you come into the gym, the gym's bumping, there's plenty of people there. Um, if someone wants a membership, I'll talk to them like, hey, man, like you you want to do this, you know, like whatever. It's it's it's so like laxed because it's like, you know, I don't want to say that I don't need your money. I mean, because of course, like we need to run a business, but at the same time, it's like there's no neediness about it. It's like, hey, I think I got this really cool thing. People love it. It helps out a lot of people. We've got a great culture here. Do you want to be a part of this? That's really what it is. That's Speaker 2: There's no desperation. Speaker 1: There's no desperation. So I think that that's the thing. And so like when it comes to creative work and it even comes to having some freedom in your own thoughts to plan out how you want to go about things. It's a lot easier to do that when you're not like again, stressed because you're like, I got to pay for all this stuff. And then like doing creative work, like you don't feel like again, part of the reason we we talked about this, we've talked about this on the podcast before. Like we don't take a lot of the sponsorships that come in because I don't believe in their products. If I was strapped for money, you bet I'd be up here like, hey, guys, like do you guys like this particular thing, then you'll love this supplement, right? Like, you know, you'd be up here being like because I you see a lot of people that do that all the time on YouTube and other things where, you know, they're like every week they're telling you about a product. Oh, guys, I love this product. It's so great. I use it all the time. I was like, do you really? Like, I've never heard you talk about it until last week when they decided to pay you a sponsorship deal. You know, so I um, you don't have to do that. You can kind of do what you want. So we do have sponsorships, but they're only like if we like the products and we think they're cool. And we always kind of go about it that way and we also don't do ad reads because I'm like, I refuse because then it's like it's not being honest with people. Speaker 2: And again, speaking like we don't have like a like, hey, there's certain things we'll mention, but it's not like we're not going to read off of this teleprompter essentially. Speaker 1: And again, that kind of comes from the fact that like it's the if you want me to mention it to the people, I will, but I don't need your money. Yeah. You know, it's whatever. It's like Speaker 2: I'll do it my own way, right? And that's usually that that way I've seen this this stuff all the time. Like you see on Instagram. Speaker 1: Have you ever have you ever seen an ad read that we're like, wow, I've got to go do that because it sounds so forced and fake. You know what I mean? But if you actually get someone that uses the product that has real experience with it, you go, hmm, maybe I'll try that out. Speaker 2: Most people aren't great actors and like to do that, you have to be kind of acting and and you can tell like because it's people just are not it just doesn't feel genuine. It's like they're reading off of something or they're saying shit they're supposed to say and yeah, it doesn't come off. Speaker 1: It doesn't come off well. Speaker 2: And I think we always with sponsorships, we always like, hey, we're cool. We're we're interested. Like we're going to try this stuff first. If we don't like it, we're going to tell you and if it doesn't work out, we're going to tell you and move on. Speaker 1: So, here's the next one, guys. Uh, because I know we're getting off uh, we start going on tangents. Um, it's to be expected, right? You guys if you've been if you've been a long-time listener, you know. Um, here's another one. So this is another thing that kind of helped put me in a good position to do what I do, um, and have the freedom that I have is that I have a car that I bought with cash years ago and I will drive until the wheels fall off. Um, I also as I mentioned earlier, bought my wife a modest used hybrid cash. Um, brought it from a friend. It was like $6,000, $7,000, you know, a couple years old. And he, you know, still has under 100,000 miles. Speaker 2: That's awesome. Speaker 1: You know what I mean? So no problem. Um, and you know, neither of us care about cars as much. So like why would we spend a ton of money on them? You know, I mean, if I go into the gym, nobody cares what car I drive. You know, I'm driving around town. Nobody cares. You know, it's not a thing. Um, and so I just I'm not really worried about it. Now, at some point, I will buy another car and when I do, I'll probably buy a nicer car than I have now because I'm in a better financial situation. But until that's a necessity, I don't really need it. Um, and again, this goes back to the people that I knew, that I saw, that were wealthy and that had money and that had freedom in their lives because the freedom is the big thing. It's one thing to be wealthy and make money, but you can still be poor. Yeah. You know, because you just too much stuff. And then there's a thing of being like, you get to do whatever the hell you want to do with your life. That's a cool thing. Like that's what I want. I want to I want that. And when I looked at those people, those people all sort of had modest lifestyles and you would never know it based on the car that they were driving. They were never trying to impress anyone because they were focused on their actual life versus, you know, trying to impress someone with the car that they had. And uh, and so I, you know, kind of took that in, you know, like that's something that I uh, I really hung hung on to because I mean, I've met so many people who have gotten to this like trap with vehicles. Um, I remember one of our guys, one of our students years ago, um, he came into the gym and he had like a basically a brand new Corvette. You remember that? Do you remember him? Speaker 2: I don't know. Speaker 1: Start with an R. Speaker 2: Yes. Speaker 1: Yeah. So, you know, cool dude, cool guy, but very focused on appearance. But comes in with a new Corvette, right? Like new Corvette, you know, and this is the same guy that then bought like seven different gees and, you know, this whole thing was it was this whole image thing, right? And I remember one time just hanging out with him. We were like some of us were outside of the gym. I think maybe we went up to like food or maybe have a couple drinks or something. And we're just sitting there talking and it's like him and I very candidly. And he kind of like, you see this sort of because, you know, a lot of times, um, there's this idea that I heard shared once. It was in a it was a screenwriting uh audio program and they were talking about how there's these different the they were talking about the symbology and certain things. And they were talking about the movie Shrek. And I've I've talked about this before where, you know, if you think of Shrek, when he meets the princess, he's wearing armor. Right? And this is kind of how we are in public, right? We have armor on. And then we lift up the visor, we take off the gloves. We we let people in on the fact of who we actually are underneath slowly. And in the the show, right? Like he like she doesn't know that he's an ogre under there. And then she eventually finds out. So with that, you know, the the visor came up a little bit and he was like, man, I'm so strapped. This stupid car. I hate this fucking car. You know, just hates this car. Now, on the edge on the outside, it's like, oh, dude, that's so cool. He's got this expensive car. But he's like, he hated it. And I remember eventually he finally like he somehow he got out from underneath of it, you know, and got something um cheaper. But again, it's just one of those things where I'm trying to live a certain purposeful life and I don't want to be weighed down by liabilities. Like that was that was one of those things from the the Rich Dad Poor Dad book thing. Like I remember reading those when I was like in my early 20s and that was like one of his big things was like the difference between a liability and an asset. Yeah. You know, cars are liabilities. They cost you money. They don't really they don't make money for you. Speaker 2: Oh, they're like one of the worst investments. Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not an investment. It's it's not I mean, you're buying it's a it's a tool, right? That's what it is. It's to get you from place to place. Not an investment. Um, Speaker 2: Yeah, don't don't ever buy a car as like a Speaker 1: Yeah, you're going to like Speaker 2: make any money off of it. Speaker 1: And and Speaker 2: it's it's one of those things, yes, it's important. And I've done this. I've made some bad decisions. You know, with cars. I bought. I remember I was in college. I bought a Speaker 1: You had a Beamer. Speaker 2: I had a BMW. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And and that thing, man, if you ever buy a BMW, like you got to have money to to maintain it and fix it because it's going to Speaker 1: Well, especially in your BMW was years old, right? So Speaker 2: Yeah, it was probably like 10 or 12 years old or something. Speaker 1: So then you're you're dealing with a car that's like just it needs maintenance done. Speaker 2: It's just, you know, and so I've made that mistake and and it was like, man, what what did I do that for? Like, why did I even need that? And I wanted something. I was like, I want this little this cool car. Yeah. And and then I I totally switched. I bought like a very uh modest used uh Nissan Maxima. It was like a 2000. It had it was a stick shift. So like, cool, it's a stick shift. So I can at least, you know, drive it and and kind of have some fun with it, but very modest. Paid cash, low miles. It's like some they were trying to get rid of it. It's not a lot of people drove stick shifts anymore. So it was hard for the guy to sell it. So I got a great deal on it and I did that. My wife needed a car. We went and bought this hail damaged car for like half the price and like it drove great and we drove the shit out of this car. Then we ended up selling it and uh, it was awesome. So it was just like one of those things like we didn't want to be worried about that's an extra expense. We paid that stuff cash because like, you know, it wasn't going to I didn't need a loan. I didn't want to take a loan out and I got enough. We were already like, you know, trying to figure out like, hey, we got to get a, you know, we had a condo. It was very reasonable. I bought a condo when I graduated school. Very reasonable, low, you know, it didn't have a ton of it was decent, but it didn't have what I wanted, but I was like, it's it's okay for right now and, you know, it'll it'll get me by until I'm ready. Speaker 1: And then and then you guys worked up. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: Combined together, made smart financial decisions and you got a nice you got a super nice home. And you got some nice cars. Great. Speaker 2: Well, yeah, the cars. What's going to run? It's going to run. Our cars are older, but like, hey, it's the same thing. Like it's, you know, we got cars that we thought would be safe for our kids and they would are going to kind of last us a while. So. Speaker 1: And so, uh, you know, again, and that's something to think about with the car thing. It's such a trap because it's um, if you want to look up the the advertising of cars, it's a fun, it's an interesting dive. Um, as a student of marketing and business, right? There's a guy named Edward Bernays. I've probably mentioned this on the podcast before. But hey, repetition. Um, he basically was a propagandist for the war. And then, you know, for the military and for the United States. And then they basically he started basically getting hired for all these different advertising campaigns. And so some of his some of the things that you consider to be very normal or sort of just part of American society, culture, whatever, are him. Right? So eggs and bacon for breakfast. That's him. He basically he was hired by a company that was trying to sling bacon and they they paid some doctors to say, yeah, eggs and bacon is a great breakfast, whatever, it's good for you. Because before that, we didn't eat eggs and bacon wasn't part of our breakfast staples. It was like we would eat like a little bit of cereal, some sort of cereal food, like by cereal, I mean like oats, whatever. Um, or and then maybe some toast or something and then a coffee. It was like a very small breakfast. Then it was like, eggs and bacon, baby. Good doctor says it's good. You know. Um, and then uh, there's another one like women smoking in public was a biggie. Um, so before that, it was kind of a taboo thing. Women didn't smoke in public, whatever. And then they they came up with there was this parade. I think this was during the women's suffrage movement where uh, this the all these women got together and they lit up their cigarettes and they called it torches of freedom. Speaker 2: That's crazy. Speaker 1: And so and it was it was basically, you know, the cigarette companies were like, we're trying to get there's a whole untapped market of women who could be smoking and they're not smoking. So we need to get them smoking. So we start getting them. And then uh, but the car one was interesting where basically he's like, we got to sell the the company's like, you know, Ford and GM were like, hey, we need to sell more cars. You know, because at that point, cars were still looked at as very much like a just you a tool. You use it, you get around, whatever. That's what you use them for. It's a horseless carriage. Speaker 2: Not not a luxurious item. Speaker 1: Yeah, we're not you're not replacing your horse-drawn carriage every every month, right? Or every year. You know, you're kind of like have it and you use it, whatever. But said that we they were considered horseless carriages. What they were, right? Get around from places. Well, they basically started creating multiple different models, right? Different models every year and stuff like that. So there's always a new thing. And then they linked car buying and cars to male virility. Like your masculinity is wrapped up in, hey, what kind of car do you drive? And all the advertisement, if you go back to the old advertisements for cars, it was all about like like basically your manhood in a car. And you think about it, right? Like now what happens, a young guy, I don't know if it's still the same way as it was when I was young, but like every young dude, when he's, you know, coming of age, 18, 19, 20, whatever. What's the first thing he wants? He wants a cool car. Speaker 2: A sports car. Speaker 1: A sports car, he wants something cool, whatever. Um, you know, maybe a nice truck or something. Just wants a cool car. Um, and so that's what they get focused on. I mean, and like, you know, if anybody's been around the military, every young dude who, you know, like back when they would come back from deployment, they'd have all this money sitting in the bank and those damn car lots, dude, are just surrounding the bases. And I remember, you know, when they were doing um, when a bunch of guys were coming back from the military and they were getting stationed at Fort Knox for a little bit, you know, they would come to train at the gym and I remember they would have you would see this caravan of new Camaros, Mustangs and Jeeps just coming down the road. Oh, that's our military guys. They're they're coming in to train. And uh, so they pray on them. And so, you know, there's a lot of other things marketing-wise that have been told to us. Um, one of which which gets to one of our other lessons here, or one of my other things is uh, I never bought my wife an expensive ring, diamond ring or anything and our wedding lasted five minutes and and it was in our backyard. So like my wife and I I asked her like when we bought the house and you know, we're out in the barn. We uh, we had just gotten her horse back. So she's got her horse. She's got her house. She's got her barn. Like I I have now like she has no debt. You know, we have no debt. I'm like, I have given you woman, given you nest, right? I've given you all this stuff, right? That's for me, I was like, I've provided this stuff. This is what I did. And I remember I came up to her and I said, so uh, you got your horse, you got your house. I sort of took a knee and was like, how about a husband? You know, and like she's like, what what are you serious? I was like, yeah, let's do it. Like, whatever. So she says yes, of course. Um, how could she not? Speaker 2: How could she not? How could she not? Speaker 1: How could she not? Um, Speaker 2: What if she said no, you'd be like, oh, shit. Speaker 1: We got a gotcha, buddy. We got a real big problem now because we're in this we're in this house together and you're not you're not up for marriage. Speaker 2: Well, there is a barn. So somebody's going to sleep out there. It's probably you. Speaker 1: Yeah, it would be me. Um, I don't know, she'd probably sleep in the barn for me. She loves being out that damn barn. Um, so it's like her happy place. It's like it's like her it's like her gym. I remember like when she would go out there, she'd work out there for she'd be like pulling out hay because you think like it Carl Young talks about this in one of his books. He was talking about how like at some point as we get older, we go back to doing some of the things when we did when we were younger and we find this joy in that. Speaker 2: Sure. Speaker 1: And like you think about like there's things that you probably do now that you did when you were a kid and they bring you a great sense of joy as an older guy, right? And so for her, you know, she used to clean stalls and do all that stuff back and when she was a kid and it was part of her fun experience. So now she can go out and stalls, man. She can go out and clean those stalls and she's just having a blast, has a little music playing or whatever or listen to podcast and she can get out there for six hours just doing stuff in the the barn. Um, but, you know, basically, so we we're we're getting married. I asked her, I'm like, hey, do you want to do you want to plan something? She's like, okay, sure, whatever. So, months go by and, you know, she's not planning anything because it stresses her out too much. I'm not going to plan it because I got too much stuff on my plate. And I gave her like a blank check. I was like, whatever kind of wedding you want. Because she's a pretty modest person anyway, so I don't have to worry about it too much, but at the same time, I was like, you know, if you want a wedding, let's get a wedding. She wasn't planning anything. And so and I and I told her I refused to get her a diamond. Uh, I was like, it doesn't come from any place good. Um, and also too, the the whole idea of it, like some companies trying to sling diamonds and I'm supposed to buy you a diamond because this company said that it's the right thing. Again, going back to marketing. Back in the day, you would just tell a woman, hey, you want to get married? And that was all you needed to do. But then a company came along and like, we need to sell diamonds. So you know what you need to get your wife before you marry her? You need a diamond ring. And they had a whole advertising campaign, even how much of your salary it was supposed to be. Speaker 2: How much the ring is supposed to cost. Speaker 1: How much it's supposed to your ring was supposed to call like basically there was a formula. Your salary is this, X times whatever. I'm like, okay, I'm like, so I was like, I'm not doing that. So she found like a I asked her to marry her and then she found like a it was like a $100 $100 Topaz ring on like some some website. And she always gets compliments on it. It's a beautiful little ring. It's a it's a beautiful clear stone. Um, but like, you know, whatever. So she gets that. And then with the wedding, we just did it in our backyard. Five minutes. I remember uh, so once I decided once I figured out she wasn't going to do anything, I said, okay, well, let's figure this out. I went into the gym and I I saw one of our guys I knew had a um, you know, he had like a he's ordained by the Life Church or whatever. And he had just done a wedding. And I said, hey, Eric. He's like, what's up? I said, hey, man, what are you doing next Wednesday around 1:00? He said, I I don't think anything. I was like, cool. I was like, you're going to uh, you know, marry me and Jess. And I was like, I'll I'll I'll give you some money for it. He said, uh, okay. You could tell he was a little taken back. He wasn't ready for that. It was a little little more nerve-wracking for him. Yeah. And so then, you know, we we sent we said, hey, if anybody wants to, whatever, family, you can come and then we live streamed it for anybody that couldn't make it. And then five minutes right under underneath of our uh, our sugar snap peas in our garden. There you go. That was it. Like and no stress whatsoever. And uh, it's uh, it's for at least for me, it's very helpful having a wife that's like sort of just down for whatever. But again, that stuff's so expensive. Like you look at the amount of money. And there's nothing wrong with it. If you want to dump some money and have a really cool wedding, that's cool. Do it. For me and her, we just didn't care about it. If we cared about it, we'd spend money on it. We just didn't care about it. We're like, why do we want to do it? We we saved that money that we would have spent on the wedding and we just had a really cool vacation in Hawaii. Flew, had good seats. You know, like good seats so we could like eat good meals when we're going there and then just, you know, enjoyed that versus like paying for a giant wedding for people that we don't ever see to come celebrate and just sort of have that whole thing. Speaker 2: We went down the the wedding rabbit hole a little bit and we realized how expensive things were. So it's like, you know, my my parents wanted us to have a pretty nice wedding and and we we did want, you know, some nicer wedding. And so but we we were like, we can't go and like pay this much money. So we found the venue that was like cheaper that we could do all our own stuff. Like where we could like bring in our own catering and we use Masterson's because they were just like it was a we had a good deal and then we had them like we provide our own alcohol. We just found a way that we could really save and still have a nice experience for, you know, still have a nice wedding. But there's like you can just go so overboard. Yeah, bro. Um, crazy overboard. And which we're like, look, this is how much money we have. You know, my parents are going to help us out a little bit. We had some family that wanted to help us out some, which was nice. Um, we tried to make it as reasonable as we could and and my wife did a bunch of stuff like planning a bunch of stuff. Her sister, you know, she had her sister was an event uh planner. She she did this kind of stuff. So she was like, I'll help you guys out and so it was really cool. We're like, we got to keep it in check, right? Like because it could get so out of hand. Speaker 1: Oh, easy. Speaker 2: So crazy. Speaker 1: Well, I feel like whatever the service is, like let's say if you have photography services. Yeah. Let's say that and I'm just giving you a number because it's it's easy, right? Let's say that that that number is like $250, right? Okay, $250 for this particular photography service. Oh, it's a wedding. $1,000. It's like they just know they got you by the balls. So they're like, we're going to just the price goes up because they know you're going to pay for it. Speaker 2: Dude, you can get like drones to like take video of I mean, it can get so crazy. Speaker 1: So we didn't we just had to pick somebody to take pictures. We had a photographer, but we didn't get any video and stuff, but it was just fun. It it was good. Our our wedding, we had some cops got called. That was a fun thing. So. Speaker 2: Yeah, some somebody that my wife knew ended up like before I remember seeing this woman walking in before the wedding even started, like stumbling around. I guess they were on and so we had to call the EMS and let them call EMS and the police show up. Oh, well. Cuz like, what's going on here? So it was a whole thing, but it turned out okay, but um, that was a fun time. But, you know, it was just good. It was good to like we had like a wedding and the point is this. Weddings are stressful. And it's all about like, hey, at the end, did you get married? That's that's the whole point of this thing. Is to get married. Speaker 1: Well, and what do you what do you want? Yeah. That's really what it comes down to. Speaker 2: Yeah, find something reasonable that's going to work for you and it's not going to like freaking put you in debt. Yeah. I think the debt thing's the big thing. Speaker 1: Because I I've known people that took out loans or had to like take out stuff to like pay for a wedding. I'm like, what that's the worst thing ever. You're going to like, you're going to put yourself into uh, into basically like subjugation to the banks, like when you start off your like your new life together. Speaker 2: Starting in deficit, it's just tough. So you got to crawl out of this thing and. Speaker 1: Yeah. So that, you know, it just like do it within your means. There's not like like you said, there's one way that's right for you guys. There's a way that's right for us. There's going to be a way that's right for somebody else. Don't do it the way you want to do it and the way that makes sense for your life essentially. Like don't do it because you feel like you have to have the craziest wedding. We went to a wedding in um, in California. And uh, oh God, what's it's an island off of California. Okay. It was Catalina. Speaker 2: Catalina. Speaker 1: Catalina Island. Dude, it was beautiful. But I was like, I could not imagine how much this wedding cost. I could not imagine. Crazy. Crazy, dude. When I worked when I worked catering, one of the most expensive weddings we ever did. I remember I I remember seeing the bill and it was like for Masterson's like just their bill. Oh, God. Was like several hundred thousand dollars. Speaker 2: What? Yeah. $100,000. Speaker 1: Like it was it was it was well into six figures. Speaker 2: Dude. That's unreal. Speaker 1: Right? Okay. And so like it was it was a big wedding. That's unreal. So it was like, I think it would it was like a 400 person wedding, maybe 500 person. And it was served. So there was buffet style and there was served. Served is expensive because that means like you have to have you have to have way more people there because we're we're basically preparing the food and we're we're shuttling we're and we're putting the food on the plate for you. So that's like even more. And then I remember then hearing the uh, I overheard some people talking and like the the the woman, the the bride, her dress was like 50 grand. Speaker 2: What? Speaker 1: This this is this is 20 this is 20 three years ago. Speaker 2: Double this. Triple it. Speaker 1: I mean, you're talking well, you're talking about at least like probably close to $75, $80,000 is equivalent. I mean, it's a lot of money, bro. And like, you know, there was this thing where you would go down and they had like these incredibly nice like these they were these like trailers that were uh like porta potties, right? But they were like, you'd go in and everything was like nice marble and stuff. I'm like, this this you got to rent those things. This guy apparently the the dad paid for it all and he owned a bunch of different uh, he owned a bunch of gas stations. Like he owned a ton of gas stations. Speaker 2: So wild, dude. Speaker 1: Right? Um, I was always curious. I always wondered. I was like, I wonder if they made it. Like, I wonder if like, you know, you pay that much money for a wedding if like that if that that that marriage lasted, right? Speaker 2: Man, and stuff just adds, you don't realize how quickly things add up. You know, and then after it's like, all right, was that worth it? So. Speaker 1: Next one. And again, this kind of goes into this whole idea of like purposeful living and stuff and kind of going back to I'm just sharing I'm sharing these ideas to, you know, me from 20 something years ago. These days, I work a lot, but it's meaningful work. I work the hours of my choosing and I also make sure there's quality time for the things I find important, like family, friends, training, um, my own sort of inputs, like reading and and study and things like that. Um, but it's meaningful work. So I think that's the the thing I think it's important. It's like, like you were talking about, there was some guy that messaged Eugene recently and this is this is not new and it's not uncommon. But it was a guy who sent him a message about, hey, man, um, do you want to like grow your business and start like, you know, hanging out on the beach, drinking cocktails while you're just making bank? I I really think this idea of like that the goal of life should be to like find some sort of ease. Like you're basically just supposed to be able to like screw off and somehow just make a ton of money. I don't think that that's really the the goal that most of us, if we're really honest with ourselves, should be after. I think you can look at plenty of examples of very wealthy people, celebrities, trust fund kids and so forth who Speaker 2: struggle. Speaker 1: Who struggle big time because they don't have any sort of meaningful work to do. I think humans we like we like having work that means something to us and that's purposeful. And this sometimes becomes like our hobbies at times, right? We feel like we we do something that's like that's purposeful to us, us, you, not someone else, right? But to you. And that's important. I don't think it's like, hey, you know what I'm going to do for the rest of my days, I'm going to sit here at the beach and do nothing. Sure that's fine for probably a week or two. But eventually that's going to get old pretty quick. Um, and I think again, when you look at a lot of people who have lots and lots of money, it doesn't necessarily mean that their life is happy. You look at a lot of again, going back to the celebrities and these people that were born wealthy and a lot of them struggle to maintain healthy relationships with their spouses, their kids, themselves, drugs and so forth. And so I think a lot of times, you know, for a lot of people, it's not about trying to get away from work. It's trying to find some some sort of meaningful work or meaningful activity that you can dive into. I think that's uh, that fills a void for a lot of us. Speaker 2: Yeah, and also having some type of work-life balance too. I think it's really important. Speaker 1: You know, enjoying your work is that's just a incredible bonus to have. Loving what you do and that allows you to still to to do what you enjoy doing, but then also have the opportunity to kind of have time with the people you want to spend time with, which is kind of really really important. Um, yeah, because if you if you're working really hard, but you never get to enjoy it, then what's the point? Speaker 2: 100%. Yeah. Speaker 1: What's the point? And a lot of people they work I heard this idea and I'm trying to embrace this a little bit more because I think I'm guilty of it sometimes. Um, a lot of people's activity is really just laziness in disguise. Speaker 2: What do you mean? Speaker 1: Like for instance, like you like people can get really busy doing things, but not really accomplish much of anything. Yeah. Opposed to like being very efficient. Like taking your time, planning things out and then like just dialing in to get it done. You know. Um, and that's something I've been working with where I've been taking a day in the beginning of the week and that first day is like, it doesn't look like I'm doing anything. I have a like my first like this week is a great example because I'm traveling um for that business thing for the next couple days. So I knew I was going to be kind of in the hole as far as work goes. So I was like, okay, I've got to be planned out for this week. So the first day was like, I didn't do shit. To I didn't accomplish anything. Speaker 2: You just planned. Speaker 1: I was planning. I was basically recharging my battery, so to speak. Um, and I spent the whole day kind of like getting things together like here's here's our targets, whatever, getting videos together, um, emails things together and then basically then cranked out a lot of work in a relatively short amount of time the last two days. I was like, okay, like that was that was really helpful. And so I think that sometimes, you know, like again, this that's what it was told to me is like, sometimes it's just laziness, right? Like instead of being thoughtful enough to take a step back to really dive into it and figure out like what are you doing? How can you make this more efficient, which is actually hard work when you think about it. Yeah. Like, you know, this is we talked about this idea before that subtraction is such a harder harder thing than addition. We can always add more supplements into the mix. We can add extra workouts, you know, workout plans. We can add more and more and more to stuff. But like it's what's really tough is like shaving things off and really thinking deeply about something and like how to simplify this, how to systematize this process. And even with our Jujitsu, right? What's what's easier to like constantly bounce around from one technique to the next and let's try this thing, let's try this thing versus like, let's really be thoughtful with your game and then let's dial into one specific thing and let's like hammer that down and really dive into that deeply. That's tougher. That's tougher to do. It's much easier to bounce around. And so I think for me like again, a lot of us can easily like when when we think about like our work, we can like, I'll just do more. I'll just grind more. I'll do more, more, more, more, more. And that's kind of what everybody wants to do. And I get it because I feel that urge and then like this week's been pretty helpful. Like so taking some advice from someone and saying, okay, let's see if we can shorten this down. Like took a week work of work a week's worth of work, condensed it down into like two and a half, three days because you took one day to plan it all out. And then you're like, hammer, let's go. Like then you're like, because you have this hit list and everything's already prepared. Um, you know, I I've heard people say the analogy, but again, it's it's kind of hokey, but it's like the idea that uh, you know, there's two lumberjacks. They go out and to chop wood. One guy's just hammering wood the whole day. And the other guy's like, he's hammering for an hour, takes a break, hammers for another hour, takes a break. And then at the end of it, the guy that took the breaks has more wood chopped. You're like, well, what was he doing during his breaks? He was sharpening his axe. You know, and so like again, sometimes it's like if you don't take that moment to like take a step back and not be quote air quotes productive. Like whatever. So anyway, that's that's something for me. That's something I'm I'm that's something I'm moving into. Um, still work a lot, but yeah, you have that work-life balance and you can become a little bit more efficient with it as you get used to it and understand how to wield it. So. Speaker 2: It's almost like you don't have something to show for it like productive, but really it makes you more efficient in the end. It's like it's not well, what'd you do? I'll just planned all this stuff. So I really didn't get anything done. But now when it's time to go, like I've got all my ducks in a row. I'm ready to roll. Like I'm not going to spend time figuring out what I need to do next, which wastes time and also wastes energy and then because you've wasted energy trying to figure out what you need to do next. Speaker 1: That's it. Well, and also think about it. It's just like a Jujitsu lesson, right? Because like when you go into Jujitsu, a lot of times when you go in there in days, you don't feel any progress. You haven't done anything. You haven't really improved, but you put in that work and then it's like later on, you'll feel you'll see the improve you'll see the actual progress from it. It's kind of the same idea, right? Like you're doing certain activities that maybe don't have like on the front end, they don't have a um, you know, a net positive. We've done this that whatever, but they they're supporting that down the road. Um, again, something just again, I I struggle with this as a small business owner. If you're a small business owner, I mean, there's always more we can do. Yeah. Um, but having to be more efficient and really analyzing things, it it really it's so it's very difficult and it sounds it sounds like it's tougher than what it should be or it sounds easier than what it should be. But really digging down and analyzing all the stuff that you do, it's super important. Um, and so again, meaningful work, but like you said, having a balance where I don't think of it as balance so much as like it's just like shifting priorities. Um, just constantly making sure that like, you know, whether it's daily, whether it's weekly, whether it's monthly, whatever, you're making sure like there's a priority there's priorities in your life. Like for instance, last week, Friday, 12:00 hits. I was done training. I was done working for the week. And then that day, went and got Luca, brought him back to the gym. We had like I took him we did his first class. Jujitsu class together, air quotes class. And then uh, you know, we then we went up to the the store, got some snacks and then he had a babysitter that night. Um, and she came over and so we were getting snacks for the party, air quotes party again. And then took out Jess on a date night, right? Um, but you know, that was the priority. Like get done with training, get done with teaching, stuff like that. And then now it's going to be dad time and then it's going to be wife and husband time and, you know, you just make sure you give people their the the the space that they need in your life versus, you know, you don't want to be a workaholic. Um, where you don't ever experience anything else that life has to offer. Yeah. You know, or miss out on really important stuff like your family, your your wife, or your friends, or your own your own enjoyment of the life that you're creating. All right, guys. So hopefully you enjoyed the uh, the the the series today. And uh, again, if you guys want to support the podcast, you can check out our sponsors. If you guys want to check out our friends over at Epic Roll, check out their website, epicrollbjj.com. They make a lot of good gear, good gees, good rash guards and shorts, t-shirts, the whole deal, good quality stuff, good designs, good great customer service. I get my stuff made through them currently because again, I like the quality of it. 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